The text below is taken from a Facebook post by one of my oldest friends.
We recently worked together as he had a severe needle phobia. A phobia that would cause him to black out and even fit. With the current Covid vaccine roll out, he was beginning to get incredibly anxious about his inevitable upcoming vaccination, something that he wanted to be able to have. Imagine my shock today when I found out that not only had our work together made him feel capable of getting a pretty necessary injection, it made him be able to choose to have a tattoo! Something I honestly never thought I would see him do. I can't put into words how much this means to me, as a therapist and as a friend. This phobia had such a hold over him, that is is just incredible to know that my friend is now free of it. It's a pretty cool tattoo too... "For anyone that’s known from a young age you may know I have an intense phobia of needles and anything surgical. Probably due to the amount of surgery I had when I was young. The up coming Covid vaccines have been giving me serious anxiety for months now. So I’ve been working on overcoming my fear of needles etc with help and thanks to one of my oldest friends Emma Hewitt Clinical Hypnotherapy I managed to get this tattoo done thanks to Nicky’s understanding and patience along with the techniques in dealing with phobias I’ve worked on with Emma. I managed to control my thoughts and breathing and not pass out. Hopefully I’ll be able to get through the Covid vaccine without passing out and fitting. I feel a lot more confident going into it now! Previously anything surgical has led to panic attacks, fainting and fits. Body cramps and often it’s taken me a few days to recover. Honestly if I can overcome all that this year it will amazing progress on my on going path of self improvement and over coming my demons. I highly recommend hypnotherapy and if your interested please contact Emma. She’s amazing!"
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Sports Performance Hypnotherapy
A mindset of success, achievement and self belief. Do you have an upcoming challenge? Do you want to improve in your chosen sport? I'm looking for one Leeds based person to work with at no charge. Someone that will share their story via videos on my social media and website. If you're interested, please email: [email protected] With a quick explanation as to why you want this treatment and I will pick one person on Tuesday 4th May 2021. Please share or tag those you know that may be interested. Please note the therapy will be a programme of three sessions. Sessions may be held online or in person depending on what's best suited to the client. I am a creative person. Always have been. I was an #actor, a singer, writer and songwriter, photographer, florist, upholsterer and artist. My home is covered in my work, and I'll never stop making art of all kinds. Yeah, I'm a creative. But so is each and every one of you. We are creative beings. Being creative doesn't just mean painting pictures or putting on a show. Every thing in this world is a creation. Putting an outfit together, decorating your home, coming up with answers to a dilema, solving a problem at work, scientific breakthroughs, choosing a holiday... All of those are examples of creativity. But the biggest thing that you, or I, will ever create is our life. You create the life you lead and the universe in which you live. Every time that you look to the future you are creating your future self and you are manifesting the world in which you will be a part of. The topic of manifestation can be a tricky one. Many think of it as being some hippy nonsense, but no, science backs it up! Google it. As a creative being, when you imagine your future, your subconscious mind will completely believe in it. This is because the subconscious mind can not tell the difference between reality and imagination. So, what you think your future will be, your subconscious mind will look out for things, people, situations to back that up. To make it be as it is in your mind. If you picture your future life as being negative, as being hard, then that is what it will become. I guarantee it. If you use your creative abilities to imagine the most incredible love filled future, your mind will subconsciously search that out. You will attract the things that you dream of. There are so many possibilities in this world. And nothing decides the life that you will lead other than you. You decide. You create. You are the creater of your life, so make it a good one. Fill it with so much colour and love and passion as you can. One of the areas that I like to focus on in my therapy is bereavement and grief.
This is because it has been a part of my life since I was 13 years old as that's when my dad died. Bereavement and dealing with grief is one of the most difficult things anyone can go through. It is painful, in every way, and honestly, that never really goes. Losing someone that you love never really gets easier, you just get used to it. It just becomes a part of who you are. On Monday I'm doing a walk for charity, to raise money for brain tumour research in memory of my dad, Monday is also his birthday. And I've been binge watching This Is Us and the main plot line there is that their dad died whilst they were young. Put all that together and I've been a mess this week. I have just been so sad. I've cried and I've shouted at whatever or whoever may be listening that it's not fair and that I want my dad back. Its been well over 20 years now since he died but that pain and desperation and anger hasn't gone. I still don't quite believe that my dad is dead. The only difference from when we first lost him is that now it just comes out every now and then. That's the thing with grief, it's always bubbling under the surface and it can come out at any time. People can find that difficult. People don't quite know what to say or do to help you. People find grief uncomfortable. People find death uncomfortable. However, this is something we will all experience. It's part of the deal that comes with life, that comes with love. If you are struggling to deal with your loss, you're not alone and you don't have to do it alone. Hypnotherapy can help. And if you're interested, I am here to help you. Hypnotherapy can be especially helpful to those that have things left unsaid. Those with regrets. Those that have gone through the initial stages of grief but are still deeply struggling with their loss. Please, get in touch. You really can go on to live a wonderful life, there is a future to look forward to. I just started watching a documentary on Netflix called Coded Bias.
I turned it off. The issues raised in the documentary are so important and need to be told to everyone. So why did I turn it off? The same reason I've stopped watching the news. The same reason that I've stopped reading endless articles online. Because sometimes it's all a bit too much. I was watching it and I could feel that knot in my stomach getting tighter again. My breathing began to speed up. I started to clench my teeth. I used to be so aware of everything going on. I used to read something and then I would always go on to research it. To find the facts. The truth and not just what I was shown. And with that, my anxiety grew. My anger grew. And I used to have real anger problems! And honestly, I longed to be ignorant. Which is kind of ridiculous as I always saw ignorance as one of the worst traits a human can have. But I did. I wanted to not care, because whilst ever I did care, I would take it all on and it would consume me. I had to step back. I had to accept that it was ok to put myself first. Before friends and family but also before the world. Before the struggles of the human race, the climate, animals and nature. That was hard for me to accept because it goes against everything I ever believed before that. I'm not special. There is nothing about me that makes me more important than anyone or anything else in this world. And to turn my back on anyone, whether I knew them or not, was just wrong. It's not that I think differently these days, it's more that I know that to really help, to make a difference, I need to look after myself. I need to give myself time out. I need to dedicate time to seeing the beauty and kindness of this world as well as the fear and hatred. Because I promise you, that regardless of what we are shown, there is so much kindness out there. (Also, at this point it's important that I acknowledge that I am privileged to be able to do this. I am privileged in that I have that choice, to turn my head away. To sit in my beautiful home and chose to just not think about it.) So I began to switch off. I began to trust that the information I needed to know would make its way to me. (shout out to the good old universe for that) I decided that, instead of shouting and anger, I'd spread a little bit of kindness every day and that that is how I would change the world. I still watch the documentaries and I still read the articles, but the minute I feel it begin to take over, I stop. I make myself stop. So now, I only allow myself to give a certain amount of time to these issues and yes, that does include the occasional angry speach at the odd protest every now and then and honestly, I don't see me ever stopping that ️️️ I'm not saying that everyone else should do the same. Definitely not. Because not everyone is the same. If you can keep up to date with all that's going on, in a detached way, in a way that your mood is not affected, great! But if, like me, you can't help but take it all on, if you are angry at the world more than not, then please consider stepping back. Just a little. It can do you the world of good. Take. That. Risk.
Do it. Go for it. Give it a go. Courage isn't the absence of fear, its feeling that fear but doing it anyway. Be courageous! Worried that you will fail? I understand that. But you should know that the best people fail. The best people fail A LOT! I've lost count of all my failings. I've failed in my career. I've failed in my relationships (a lot ) My body has failed me. My mind has failed me. And I have failed my body. And I have failed my mind. I have failed in private. And I have most definitely failed in public 🤦🏼♀️ Failing isn't the problem. It's okay to fail, you did it over and over again as a child. Think about it. Every time you began to learn something new, you first failed. You fell when you were learning to walk. You didn't know the words when you were learning to speak. You missed the ball when you were learning to kick. You didn't know how to be when you were first making friends. You scraped your knees learning to ride a bike. Failing teaches us so much. Being able to fail, having space to fail, having the courage to fail is one of the most incredible things about being us. Go out and fail. Fail spectacularly!!!!! Fail like you've never failed before!!!! I plan on being a failure for the rest of my life. It's going to be so fun! I am really upping my fitness routine over the next week as I've got another (almost) marathon for charity on the 19th (www.instagram.com/emmaneedsyourhelp/) Today I've done ballet barre, HIT, strength training and a bit of Yoga too... But here's an interesting bit of info for you all... Tomorrow, all the training that I will do, will be in my head. You see, one of the main traits of the subconscious mind is that it really can't tell the difference between reality and the imagination. That's why fears and what ifs and anxieties can really take hold. If you think something, your subconscious mind believes it and in many ways, that can cause us all problems. Me included. But it can also be have incredible benefits for us too. Visualisation. It's a big part of training for athletes. Imagine yourself winning that race. Imagine yourself lifting that weight or making that record. Imagine it. Make it as clear as where you are right now. Imagine it and visualise it and your subconscious mind will believe it. Your subconscious mind also controls what your body does. It's controls your muscles, your cells, your hormones... All of it. If your subconscious mind believes that your body is capable of something, then, your body will become capable of it. In fact part of the Hypnoslimmer programme is a hypnotherapy session where you do exercise. In. Your. Mind. And don't be surprised if the next day your muscles are aching! People have even used this to make limbs work again! Look up Milton Erickson, see what he did! Now, this isn't to say this is easy. Nope, it take dedication and concentration and like all things, time. One other important thing to mention here is, if this is the case (and it is) just think how your body reacts to negative beliefs about yourself and your capabilities. If you think you can't do it, chances are, you can't. But if you think you can, if you you see that you can, well, the whole world is open to you! A while ago I put up a post on social media about Intuition and in that post, I promised to write a blog entry about my experiences with it. Well, here that entry is. Finally. I will be completely honest; I don’t really know where to start with this and I don’t know how much I should share either. I must accept that, in sharing some of the things that I am about to, I may be seen in a different way, I may even lose future clients. And whilst I hope that is not the case, I must be true to who I am and the things that I have experienced. And let me warn you now, those things may be hard to believe. I guess, like all stories, the best place to start is at the beginning… My mum says that I came out like this. I was different, my mind was different, I saw the world in a different way, I saw things that others did not. I just knew things. The same way you know your name without remembering being told what it is. That is the best way I can describe it. I just knew there was more. I was fascinated by death from an early age, which I know sounds super morbid, but it wasn’t in that way. It was because I knew that death was not the end. That doesn’t mean that I knew what came next, I didn’t and I still don’t, but I just knew there was something more. Now, I should point out here that I was not like the kid from The Sixth Sense, I didn’t see dead people around every corner… just maybe once or twice! Nor was I sat in the dark reading about demons all the time, no, I was usually found singing songs from Grease and daydreaming about wining an Oscar. But still, no matter what I was doing, this ‘thing’ was still a part of me. A part of me that I am finally ready to explore and accept. What do you think of when you think of intuition? According to the Oxford Dictionary, Intuition is ‘the ability to understand something instinctively without the need for conscious reasoning’ I think that’s clear enough, but what does that mean in practice? Have you ever changed your route home for no reason? Have you ever got bad vibes from someone out of nowhere? If so, that was likely your intuition talking to you. It’s that gut feeling you get when something just isn’t right. It’s that unexpected connection that you feel towards certain people. It’s that knowledge that you’re supposed to do something. I believe that our intuition is one of the most important things that we have, and I do believe it is just a natural sense that we all have, along with our sight, hearing, taste, touch, and smell. Yup, I believe it is our sixth sense and I believe that each and everyone of us possess it. But what if that sense was that strong that it picked up on more than anyone should know? What if it picked up on pain? What if it picked up on death? Could anything positive come from that? I always believed no, but now I am actively trying to find the positive in that, because that is exactly what I have. I can sense death. Wow, just writing that makes me kind of want to pull my jumper over my head and hide. It sounds like a line from some bad horror film, but for me, its just a fact. I do sense death. I know when it’s coming, I can feel it with every fibre of my being, and I don’t know what I am supposed to do with that. Surely, if this is a ‘gift’ then I am supposed to be able to do some good with it, right? But here is the big problem with it. It’s not that I know death is coming, no, weirdly I’m alright with that, my problem is that I don’t know who its coming for. I am well aware of how this will sound, and it’s totally cool if you don’t believe me. Many don’t at first, but as people get to know me, as they experience this through me, they eventually have no choice in believing it. They too eventually see this as a just a part of who I am. A part that, understandably, scares people. It scares me too! I call this ‘ability’ that I have My Funny Feelings and the best way to describe it is like that feeling you get when you unexpectedly see someone that you really fancy. That drop in your tummy. That’s the closest feeling I can think of but still, it’s different too. It comes with that knowing. I know something bad is coming. At this point, I usually mention it to those around me, plus a couple of friends and always my mum. I always need to record it somehow, to let people know, to give a heads up! And then I wait. As I wait the feeling grows. It grows and it spreads. I feel it in my legs and arms, I am unable to concentrate on anything. I am filled with helplessness. And over days, sometimes longer, it grows and grows and I just have to wait. And then it stops and when it stops, I know ‘it’ has happened. And then I wait again, I wait to hear the news. News which always comes. Here is where I should probably give examples. Stories of those lost. But with those names, with those deaths, comes such feelings of guilt that I am not yet ready to write them down. I can speak them, easily, but to write them down is different. And I am scared that for one death in particular, one that could most definitely have been prevented, that I would be held accountable by those that loved him. These things are part of the reason I left my life as an actor and decided to focus all my energy on helping people, which led to me becoming a Hypnotherapist. In fact, you could even say I was guided to it. I never really thought it all through. I never had a conscious thought of becoming a Hypnotherapist. I just followed my feelings, and everything just fell into place, and I found myself here. And here feels right. In the past I went through many dark times, times which were deeply connected to these events, times which forced me to look at who I really am and what I am supposed to be doing. And so, that is exactly what I have been doing. It feels like I am going through life on the cusp. Like just over there, is something. Something just out of sight. Something that I occasionally get a glimpse of. Something I can feel all around me. Something that is bigger than all of us. But what that thing is, I haven’t a clue. You see, with this stuff, you never really get anywhere and every time you feel like you have been able to get some form of an answer, it comes with another 10 questions and on and on it goes… Such as, if I do really sense death coming, then does that mean our deaths are already decided for us? Are our lives mapped out? OR do I sense death coming because I am able to change it? If I can change it, where am I getting these ‘messages’ from and why me? Why me is a big question for all of us, for many things and it has been for me with this stuff. Many nights I have spent crying, praying to beings that I’m not even sure I believe in asking them, begging them, to tell me why. Why do I have this and what am I supposed to do with it? Because it’s not just people close to me. Before world events, events that have left many dead, I have had dreams. Dreams that show me what’s to come. What the hell am I supposed to do with that? I do not know and to this day I have saved no one. I have spoken before of my own mental health struggles and I firmly believe that these experiences have had a lot to do with them. Try telling that to your doctor! Doctor “So Emma, tell me, do you ever hear voices?” Me “Yeah, but don’t worry, its just the dead people!” Just watch them quickly scribble notes down after that admission! I carry around so much guilt and fear. It scares me and I have struggled with it my whole life. Until last week. My dad died when I was 13 years old. And yes, I knew. In conversation with my mum, she happened to mention some things to me that she just assumed I knew. My dad was the same. WHAT!? My dad was a climber and apparently those he climbed with believed he had a sixth sense. He knew things. He knew where to stand and where not to, which directly lead to him saving lives. His mum died when he was young too, and mum said he told her he knew she was going to and that he saw her after she died. Suddenly so many things are beginning to make sense to me. I am remembering conversations I had with my dad, conversations where he understood me on a level that no one else did. And that is all it took. Knowing that this is in some way from my dad, is all it took for me to finally, completely accept this. I was speaking to my friend a few weeks ago, probably the most spiritual and magical person I know, and he said something to me that stuck. He said that “maybe I can’t change what’s going to happen. Maybe I can’t stop death. But maybe I can give the gift of time, time for people to say those things they’ve always wanted to say”. I once told someone of my feelings, that something was coming, and they asked if it could be for one particular person. I said no. I was so sure that if it were that person, I would have a sense. My ego got in the way. That person had a huge and unexpected heart attack and died immediately. Had I accepted that I did not know everything, and that this is something I must work with and said that I did not know, then maybe that person that asked me, could have focused more time with them. A couple more phone conversations. A couple more ‘I love yous’. You see, when you experience things such as what I have talked about today, you can’t help but look at the world in a different way. A world where what really matters is love and compassion. A world that really does contain magic. A world where everything is connected, and no one is ever truly alone. It may be surprising to hear, but death holds no fear for me. And what I really want to do is to help others to lose any fear that they may hold. To help others understand that even in death, we are connected. There are energies at work here. Maybe we hold that energy within ourselves, maybe it is a gift from the Universe, I’m not sure, but I do know this… there is more than what we see and what we are told. With that I have no doubt. I am 37 years old, and I first began to experience these things as a small child, yet only now am I ready to really explore them. Only now am I ready to open myself up to all possibilities, to begin to work with these things, to take a peek over that cusp… And the most exciting part??? I have no idea what I am going to find. You can hear more about this on a future episode of Jim Harolds Podcast, which I will link to once released or by following @the.conciousnessproject on Instagram. |
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